Starting Over...Again!

What the f**k?  How do we let ourselves keep going down the path of debt?  I'm so frustrated with myself.  I've let our budget get out of hand and now we're no better off than when we started.  I hate being the only one in my family that spends any energy in worrying about how much we spend.  I'm pissed at myself and I'm especially pissed at my husband.  I'm so tired of being the babysitter.  Not that it matters because noone listens to me anyways.  Why do you think it's okay to tell our son that we will buy him a $60 video that is so obviously not in our budget?  It always comes down to me saying yes or no.  I hate being the person that has to make the reasonable choice.  Something has to change because we are headed down a very dark path.  I am just so exhausted.  Debt is exhausting.  Debt makes me a terrible person.  I am done being the only one concerned with where our money goes.  It's time that my husband is an active participant in controlling our family spending.  Things change today.  I can't do it on my own with no cooperation.